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Everybody gets jealous.

Let’s throw that out there right now. It’s natural. Oddly enough in life there are several ways that people get to where they are– hard work, solid business plans, networking, perseverance, personality, and sometimes, just luck. And often, a combination of all of the above.

I am lucky to be surrounded by immensely talented artists. Many many more talented than I. Most, more successful than I. Of course I am jealous! I am simple, I have to work very very hard to ooze art. I am an engineer y’all. I ooze numbers and excel spreadsheets. I have friends who have more creativity in their pinky fingers than I do in my whole body.

There are a few ways that jealousy can seep into ones life. It can be with pity, resentment, or imitation. But, do you want to know what my jealous turns to? Support. Friendship. Creative energy. And Love. I am so incredibly happy for my friends when they succeed. I want them to succeed.

There are plenty of seats at the table. If you’re not getting what you want, change something. Don’t say, “I can’t“. Don’t say, “I tried that”. Find something.

Skill does not equate to a good business model. And a good business model does not require skill. I’m sorry. It’s the truth.

Instead, put that energy that you have to work. Bottom line: Never. Stop. Moving. Never stop learning. Never stop growing. 

I am tip toeing (bum rushing) into my mid thirties. Ok, FINE, I’m already there. I have seen the rise and fall of many friendships. I’ve had a lawn chair thrown at me at a family picnic by a friend when I wouldn’t sell my Jeep (don’t ask). I’ve said goodbye to several friends over the years. Sometimes you need to. Negative people can hurt you. Crazy people can hurt you. Literally! Luckily though she wasn’t able to get the chair high enough in the air.

And I have watched friendships fall apart. I have watched friends emulate each other. I have watched unethical behavior unravel. I have heard bitter words start to surface. Sideways comments, or criticism may not feel like it’s coming from a bad place, but, it’s probably not coming from a good place either. And someone can only take that for so long before they erupt. And that rarely ever ends well. For either party.

But, I have made so many amazing friends. I have had friends willing to drop everything they were doing and drive 10+ hours across State lines to help pack up my house even though we had never met in person. I have had friends discard dead rotting animals from my property <<<<< true friend right there.

And I have made the most wonderful photographer friends. And some of them are LOCAL! We all frequent the same watering holes, I see their images everywhere. We are pitching materials, teaching, mentoring, and more. And you know what, we rise together. We elevate each other. And we’ve all grown. Improved. And launched closer to where we want to be. And it’s not stopping.

Don’t compete with anyone but yourself. Just aim to keep up. If you stop, you will get left behind. And when you’re looking for someone to be mad at, look at your motion. Where are you feeding your creative soul?

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  • July 14, 2015 - 9:44 am

    Jennifer Carr - Seriously, your words always seem to be speaking directly to me.ReplyCancel

  • July 14, 2015 - 2:52 pm

    Danielle Awwad - What a great read! So much truth!ReplyCancel

  • July 14, 2015 - 4:53 pm

    Michelle Trotta - Absolutely wonderful post! As you grow older you learn how to better embrace the good in your life and let go of all the bad….or even just those things not contributing to the joy in your life–because all it is is clutter. I have seen both sides of the photography industry and I am so grateful to be part of the good in the community. The uplifting, the encouraging, the mentoring. It all comes full circle–we are helping ourselves grow by helping others. And it feels good.ReplyCancel

  • July 14, 2015 - 6:34 pm

    Tara Fletcher - Yes! So much truth!ReplyCancel

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