I have always said that my goals as a parent were to raise you to have confidence and self esteem. I always thought that would apply more to girls than boys, but you showed me I was wrong. You have a sensitive side. You harbor more emotions. And you, unlike your sisters, hide them under your thin skin. The world always tells our boys to be strong, work hard, and never show weakness. Be strong and work hard, but don’t hide. Don’t bury your feelings. Don’t let them take root, but rather let them grow wings. You will grow strength in being able to work through your feelings rather than hiding from them. You will find strength in learning from your weaknesses, and never be afraid to fail, because right on the other side of some of those failures will be wonderful successes.
Part of finding your confidence is knowing who you really are. Finding beauty in what makes you, well, you! Loving all of those wonderful freckles on your sweet face. Loving your slightly pokey ears. Knowing that your eyes are stuck somewhere between a blue and green.
Rolling with it when your face turns a rusty red at the slightest embarrassment.
And knowing that you add wonderful things to our family. That you are loved and wanted. That you add sunshine to our world. That you are an amazing brother.
One of the best quotes I have heard recently is “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions”. (Stephen Covey).
You, my friend, have developed a “what’s in it for me” complex. Though it is just a phase. A phase of growing and learning. We are trying to accelerate that process, however, life will teach you that nonetheless.
Just remember the early bird gets the worm (proverb).
But what you need to know is “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” (Wayne Gretzky).
And that “We become what we think about” (Earl Nightingale).
And if you’re not careful, “Either you run the day, or the day runs you” (Jim Rohn).
The truth is that you will always fall. But the trick is to “Fall seven times and stand up eight” (Japanese Proverb).
We try and teach you that life hands you nothing. To only expect what you are willing to work for.
And more importantly that “Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions”- Dalai Lama. If you search for happiness anywhere but under your own feet you are looking in the wrong place.
We love you kid. And don’t feel like you have to grow up so quickly. We are here. Wins and losses. Ups and downs. The good and the bad.
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